All guys are the same! No, wait! All girls are the same! We always came across this sentence whenever they are being ditched by their girlfriend/boyfriend or even someone that has put an impact in their life (be it crush, admire, or someone you really adore/like). So which party is right? The guys or the girls?

For today's post, we're gonna share with you readers about our two friends past encounter. Both of our friends are from a different gender. And they have the same perspective of saying that the opposite gender are all the same whenever they are being ditched. After listening to their stories, it's hard to tell whether which party is right or wrong about their mindset of saying "All guys/girls are the same".

Here it goes (Identifications will not be revealed to avoid misunderstandings to occur.) ...

The girl's ordeal :

This girl, 'A', was being dumped by her ex 3 months ago. They knew each other in September, and they broke up in December. So, their relationship lasted for only 2 months. But what 'A' did not know about 'B', her ex, was that he lied to her about his career. 'B' told 'A' that he was a regular Police Coast Guard (PCG) Officer, and he turned out to be someone who is still serving his National Service (NS).

To make the story short, 'A' found out the date that 'B' was supposed to 'temporary quit his PCG job' was the same as those NS guys who has fully completed their 2 years of service. 'A' gets to know about this through one of her friend who told her that his ORD date is on the date itself. Later, 'A' suddenly remember whenever 'B' met his friends, 'B' will always say that he's still in NS. And also, whenever 'A' wants to look at 'B's' IC, he will always come out with thousand reasons. But by the time 'A' have found out the truth, they've already broken up. So, there's no way for 'A' to confront 'B'.

Another thing that 'A' found out was, 'B' was close to her bestfriend, 'C', (it's a girl) without 'A's' knowledge. At night, when 'A' was supposed to talk on the phone with 'B', he gave excuses that he was busy. But, sources said that 'B' was not actually busy but instead, he was talking to 'C' till late at night. And a few months after their seperation, 'C' confessed to 'A' that she was actually having an affair with 'B' behind 'A's' back when they are still together.

'A' got so disappointed, she cried for almost everyday. Until today, whenever there's someone who wants to be friend with her, she will just tell them off and say to them that all guys are the same. And as predicted, the guys will try to deny and accused the opposite gender instead.

The guy's ordeal :

This guy, 'X', had known this girl, 'Y', through a friends-networking website and they then took a step further to chat in MSN. After a few hours of chatting, 'Y', surprisingly, asked for' X's' number. The guy was taken aback by her asking his number but he gave his number anyway. They texted for a few weeks and this guy realised he has feelings for this particular girl. They eventually called each other 'Dear', 'Baby' and they said 'I love you' frequently to each other. As a result of this, the guy was convinced that she has feelings for him too.

He then pursued to another level. Confessing his feelings and then asked her to be his girlfriend. The girl said she loved him too but was unable to accept him as her boyfriend for whatever reasons she had. This guy did not gave up. Due to his love for this girl, he tried to 'win her heart' by spending more time with her and buying her things that she craved for. 'X 'tried to cross his fingers and tried asking her one more time if she could be his girlfriend. This time, 'Y' told him to wait for her till she had reached the age of 18 (she was 16 at that point of time). He first thought 2 years will past in a blink of an eye so he decided to wait. Boy how ridiculous he was.

He was getting impatient. He did not gave up neither. He wanted to try his luck by trying to make her change her mindset of 'getting attached on the age of 18'. Slowly, 'Y' got to know more of 'X's' friends. After spending more time with them, 'Y' kept asking 'X' to bring along his friends whenever they wanted to meet. He was reluctant because he wanted to spend time only with her but for the name of love, he sacrificed. Slowly, 'Y' began going out with one of 'X's' friends alone for a couple of times. Sources said 'Y' had feelings for him.

One day, 'X' got into contact with 'Y's' friend. Her friend told 'X' that 'Y' is contacting with a couple of guys and told him to be careful. She felt she was being disrespectful towards 'Y' for telling 'X' the info but she thought 'X' has the right to know. 'X' has decided to stop contacting 'Y' since then. A few weeks later, 'X' found out that 'Y' was attached. He was furious because he remembered 'Y' telling him she wanted to be attached only at the age of 18.

We can't blame any gender. If we agreed that all guys are the same, what about the girls? If we assumed that all girls are the same, what about guys then? We should stop being a sexist and stop pinpointing the other gender for being the same as the others. Scrape off this mindset of 'All girls/guys are the same' and hatred. Instead, inject beauty to that hatred in terms of forgiving.

So, what's your say?