World talkers.
- Topic suggestion by Lisa and Passerby.

What is wrong with them? What is the problem with them? Can't they just be theirselves? Why must there be a need in telling lies to people so that you will looked like as if you are a "someone"?

Him: Guys! Im now in contact with this Air Stewardess. Im indeed one lucky guy!

Few weeks after that ...

You and friends: Is this your definition of pretty? My mum's way better! Air stewardess huh?! Your girlfriend works at the factory near my house right? Such a world talker! Have a life, dude!

You even dare lying to your friends so that they will think that you are actually "something". Why must you lie to both you and your friends? Why have the guts to do so?

Do you know that all world talkers are suffering from the sickness called "Low Self-Esteem"? And do you readers know what causes low self-esteem?

People suffering from low self-esteem don't always feel good about themselves. They are "afraid" that their friends or even the society might not accept them. They will go to the extend of bragging about themselves or something just to get attentions from us. World talkers are also a bunch of attention seekers.

Some people brags about themselves or something because it is just part of their habit. Some just do it for fun. For some, they purposely do it because they wanted to know how much shit that are actually coming out from another person's mouth.

Some people knew about people who talks rubbish. Instead of stopping them, they let them continue with their "Eh, my boyfriend is good looking", "Eh, my girlfriend is a model." because they simply enjoy hearing them talking shit. Honestly, it's fun hearing people who talks shit because to them, we don't know a single thing about them trying to fool us.

If you want your friends or even the society to accept you, just be yourself. What do you get by talking world? That will lead to hatred. It's not healthy if you have low self-esteem and it's really annoying being an attention seeker. Stop being a world talker just to show someone you are actually a "someone".

- Topic suggestion by Farah.

It takes time to take your life back. Why are you letting this person control you? What's the point of letting this person control you?

First love is very intense. We have to stand up for our own life. It doesn't matter if things aren't okay. The longer you hope for this person, the worse it will be for you. You need the freedom to live your life as you have planned, not letting yourself to suffer with these kind of situation.

Yes, it will be hard for you. Be strong for yourself. Be strong for your future. Do what is right. Do it soon. Don't wait much more longer. Better get hurt now, rather than later.

Topic suggestion by 'Sharea.

Okay. This is very complicated. Honestly, we don't have any answer to the question if someone were to ask us because we simply don't know who is the person you're referring to. Maybe they really love you, maybe they are not in love with you. So, how to know if the person is really into you?

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Many people confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing.

When it comes to the question of whether or not guys and girls can be just friends there is no universal truth. In some cases guys and girls can be the best of friends but in other cases any truly platonic relationship is virtually impossible.

"Why do most people seem to fall for their friend at one point or another? It's because we see a great person. Someone who knows us inside and out, someone who's been there when we were down, someone who knows what makes us laugh and what makes us cry, someone who cares. We see the perfect someone in our friend."

To have a successful guy-girl friendship;

You can be friends with anybody you want. Gender is not a deciding factor. If you meet somebody and like them as a person don’t let something as small as their sex keep you from being friends. Good friends are very hard to find.

Love can’t conquer all but peer pressure should never be allowed to control you. If your guy is a good guy your friends will come to see it in time. You just need to keep singing his praises and bring him around them as much as possible. If they see how good he is to you first hand eventually they will come around.

But, if your friends hate your love because of some acceptable reasons, than your love might not be the one for you. ALWAYS bear this in mind, you can easily find love (although it took you years to find love), but good friends, they are very hard to find.

Topic suggestion by Fika.

1. Mr Playboy flirts with you directly even without knowing you that well. Watch out! This is a warning signal. Don't ever fall in love with this type of guy. He is flirting with you for fun and not for a serious relationship. You are just someone whom he flirts with to pass his time.

2. If you're shy and trying to play 'hard to get', Mr Playboy uses lines for you. Some common examples of the lines he can use are: Don't be like this. I love you. Nevermind. I know where i stand. Any boys using such words for you without even knowing you well can be said desperate to win your heart for the time being.

3. Without knowing you well, Mr Playboy immediately calls you 'Baby', 'Honey; and so on. Halt! Don't ever ever fall into his clutches. He may be calling these names to other girls, too.

4. Mr Playboy keeps praising your beauty and personality. Jangan sesekali pikir yang he is in love with you. It is basically a sign that he is infatuated with you for only a short time. 'You, you pretty, cute, nice, and caring. It's such a waste if i didn't get the chance to be with you.'

5. He doesn't message/chat with you often and only do so when he's bored. Possibilities are that he has many girls by his side and suddenly think of you when he simply have nothing to do.

6. He has many female friends. Bare in mind, not all guys who have a lot of female friends are Mr Playboy. He may just be friendly but a Mr Playboy will go to the extent of flirting with the girls even though he is attached.

7. When you're with him, his handphone is set to silent mode or better still, switch it off. When you asked why, he simply said that he wanted to spend time with you without having any disturbance. It may be true but you wouldn't know he's hiding something from you.

8. Some Mr Playboy even go to the extent of having two handphone numbers. When you went out with him, you decided to check his handphone and your heart was set at ease when you realised he didn't hide anything from you. You wanted to check his other handphone but he refused to give it to you, giving excuses like, "My other handphone is spoilt. You already take a look at my another handphone. Im not hiding anything from you." But truthfully, he did hide something from you. You wouldn't know if he kept all the girls number in that particular handphone which he refused to give it you.

9. If you knew this Mr Playboy from a social net-working website such as Tagged, then check out his profile. How many comments did he reply/give to other girls? Notice the way he reply to them. If you're unlucky and you somehow saw a comment such as, "I miss you! I had fun chatting with you yesterday" and such from many girls, just beware.

10. Most Mr Playboy does not introduce you to his friends. Because why? His friends may accidentally or even purposely leak his secrets to you and he's afraid it would happen.

11. He’s too smooth. Does he have an answer for everything? A really good answer for everything? We're not surprised as it comes from years of practice. Mr Playboy has made a lot of mistakes in the past and has plenty of experience. He knows what you want to hear, because he’s learned well from his previous 'victims'.

12. He brainwash you. You saw a comment by a girl who said, "Baby! I had fun playing bowling with you just now." And you wonder who is that particular girl. When you asked him, he simply replied that they're best friends and she likes calling him 'Baby'. You were convinced by his words and you ended up disliking that girl instead.

13. Always busy. Mr Playboy keeps giving you excuses that he's busy until he doesn't have enough time to message/call you. This is bullshit. If you really like/love someone, you can find a minute to at least text them. No one is that busy!

14. They're always so confident that you can just tell they're used to getting what they want when they want it. They are so confident that they can make you fall easily into their clutches.

15. Trust your instincts! If you suspect he is a player or manipulating you, that's nature telling you to get out of a potentially harmful situation.

16. He's good at lying and he'll try to cover his mistakes and make you trust him again when you managed to find out about the mistakes he made.

Well, the answer is clearly proven. Ignore him. Leave him. He's not someone who deserves you. You wouldn't want to continue getting to know this boy and ended up getting hurt, right? Save yourself from the awful heartache. No one wants to get hurt pretty badly. Don't let him conquer your feelings/emotions. Better be safe than sorry. I'm sure the ladies want to get revenge for what the playboy had done to them, but really, let nature takes its course. Don't let Mr Playboy ruin your life.

So, what's your say?

Hmm, what should you do? You like that girl, but you don't know if she feels the same way towards you too. We've done some findings/research and these are what we discovered.

If that girl is not into you, she ...

- "You: You, why aren't you eating? You will fall sick if you don't eat. Go and eat alright. Don't be stubborn or else you will fall sick again later. Her: Haha. I won't."

- 'Sorry, my phone's battery was flat', 'Sorry, i fell asleep', 'Sorry, my friend borrowed my phone, 'Sorry, wasn't aware of your message', 'Sorry, my handphone was giving me problems', 'Sorry, I didn't receive your message' and so on. And it happens everytime.

- 'Aww, melts! That guy is super hot!', 'Eh why didn't 'X' message? I kinda miss him' or some sort.

We hope with all these factors, it'll help you find out if she has feelings for you or not. We're sorry if we missed anything out.

And always remember, it takes two hands to clap. If she doesn't want to reply to your love, then what are you waiting for? Don't waste your time liking someone if she doesn't feels the same way to you. You might end up hurting yourself. And this doesn't imply to only guys, to girls as well.

From the previous post, we've provided you with 8 qualities of a good friend. Being a good friend isn't really enough. Being friends through thick and thin is not easy. Make your friendship deeper and stronger with this list of friendship tips.

- Always remember to be yourself. Lots of people struggle not to lose their identity once they become part of a group of friends. Lets say your friend is cool, that doesn't mean you have to be cool too. If everybody wants to be cool, your clan of friends is such a bore!

- "Eh! Wanna know something? That bestfriend of yours, blablablablabla!" And there goes your foul mouth gossiping about others. Always remember, good friends don't spread rumours about other friends.

- At some point, somebody you're not tight with is going to question the integrity of one of your friends. It's important to find out both sides of the story in a situation like this, but it's also a good chance to show your friend that you have faith in them by standing up for their reputation. Whenever you can, be respectful of the other person's question or criticism but emphasize that your friend is a good person who deserves the respect of others, even when they make mistakes.

- Ahh! Don't get yourself confused. Protect your friends doesn't mean covering up for the mistakes he/she have done. When a friend of yours is making not-so-great decisions about anything, do your best to look out for them. This doesn't mean telling them what to do constantly, but you can offer gentle advice and guidance from time to time.

- Stray away from dating the exes of your friends! Even if your friend allows you to do it, wait a while to get involved with someone who broke their heart or betrayed their confidence. Better still, don't!

- There are times when a friend will lend you a shoulder to cry on, or whatever. Be sure that you're equally as generous with your time, your emotions and your possessions. People will take notice, and it's something to feel good about.

So, what's your say?

We can easily find Friends anywhere. We all know that Friends come and go. What about true friends? It's so hard to find them till we have to search for it high and low. Since Friends come and go, true friends come into our life, and stay with us. True friendships can start instantly but they take time to build. So, what are the qualities of a good friend?

- He/she may not share every detail about their life to you, but they do try to be clear about ther intentions.

- He/she is at least a fairly good listener and notices how everyday things can affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're feeling low or when you're happy.

- He/she will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or pit you at risk of losing something that matters to you.

- He/she won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.

- Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it.

- Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will always stick with you. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.

- This in indeed very important. In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.

So, what's your say?

Girls who are after boys.
-Topic suggestion by Lyna.

Topic suggestion by 'Sharea.

Nobody wants to be in a bad relationship. Creating a healthy relationship takes one step at a time. Whether the two of you are on the verge of breaking up, or if you just feel something is amiss and needs to be looked at further, the words that follow are meant to get you out of your rut and have you enjoying your relationship again.

- Only a few people can explain what's wrong with their relationship. They can explain in great detail what has happened, and who has done what to whom however! But hashing out the details doesn't move your relationship forward. You need to diagnose the problem so as to troubleshoot, accept responsibility, and fix it.

- Bad relationships don't just happen. Like healthy relationship, bad relationships are born, fed and nurtured into becoming what they are. Therefore, in order to fix a bad relationship, you must first look at how you've contributed to the problem as well as accept responsibility for your actions, intentional or otherwise.

- Everyone has self-sabotaging behaviours. Whether or not your relationship succeeds depends on how well you are able to identify them, review the reasoning behind them, and conquer them. And creating a healthy relationship is dependent on you outlining these destructive behaviours with the intent of demolishing them.

- Your next step is to replace these defeatist actions and thoughts with positive, self-supporting and healthy rules to enable the kind of relationship you've always wanted.

- Moving to this stage of the relationship healing process means you've adopted some new ways of thinking, being and doing, and are now ready to start putting your work into action. It also means finally taking stock of both you and your partner, and what each of you needs and wants in a healthy relationship.

- It's time to reconnect with your partner. No more keeping things inside your heart. The insight you've gained will now be put to work to help both of you get what you need and want in your relationship. That being said, this last step definitely isn't easy, and it takes a considerable amount of time. But if you truly do want a healthy relationship with your partner, this last step is essential to ensuring success.

Healing your relationship means that you will have to review how you've contributed to the problem and what you need to do to fix it. Not what the two of you need to do, or even what your partner should do. Essentially, fixing a bad relationship means reconnecting with yourself.

Topic suggestion by F.K.

Ever been in this situation before? Somebody wants to be with you just because of your status and not because of loving you? Or worst, they're with you and they demand you to change? It's sure so frustrating right?

Demanding someone to change or being with someone without loving them has the same meaning as you're forcing yourself to love them without sincerity. You are actually suffering from a killer one-sided feelings and there isn't much you can do to change it into relationship. YOU CAN'T FORCE YOURSELF TO LOVE SOMEBODY. YOU CAN'T EVEN MAKE YOURSELF LIKE SOMEBODY. So, why bother in asking them to change or even being with them knowing you have no feelings for them?

You know that person isn't really into you when they demand you to change. If that person really loves you, he will accept you for who you are no matter what. And if that person isn't in love with you, he will only accept you for what you are.

What to do when you're in this kind of situation? Easy. Just leave him/her because there's plenty of guys/girls out there who's willing to accept you for who you are.

Topic suggestion by F.K.

Love triangle almost always implies that the arrangement is unsuitable to one or more of the people involved. One-sided feelings and jealousy are common themes in love triangles.

We all think about it in terms of being 'cheated' on but rarely do we worry that we're being 'cheated' with. The reality is that when 'cheating' happens there is always an 'other' person, a 'person' who comes along after-the-fact and helps a 'cheater' to 'cheat'. Be it knowingly or not in order for 'cheating' to happen there has to be this 'third party', this other 'lover'.

Sounds very complicated right? Nevermind. We will make things much more simple for you to understand.

Love triangle equals to having a third party involved in the relationship you're currently in. This third party can be your ex boyfriend/girlfriend, your friends, or it can be just anybody.

How to know if there's a third party in your relationship?

- (B, im now busy with work/school stuffs. I will meet you later in the night alright? It will be much more romantic.)

- (Him: Eh B! Why did you switched off your handphone? Her: I don't want anybody to disturb because i wanna spend time with only you.)

- (Him: B! Your birthday is coming right? Where shall we go to celebrate? Her: What the hell are you talking about?! My birthday was 4 months back. Are you seeing someone else as well?!)

- (Him: Yana baby! Her: What B?! Yana?! Since when my mother change my name?! Im Waty lah! Who the hell is Yana?! Him: Really? Did i called you Yana? You heard me wrongly, dear. Since when i called you Yana?)

- (Him: B, when do you wanna bring me to meet your family? Her: Huh? Family? Err, im not ready yet.

- (Her: B, can i tag along? I wanna meet your friends too. Him: No need. Just stay at home alright. This is all-guys-day-out. There's no girls at all.)

- (B, we go out another day okay. Mama's sick. She needs my company. Sorry.)

- (Him: B, jumpa i nanti? I finish work early today. Her: Laaah! Asal you bilang i last minute? I tak free lah. I ada class meeting nanti.)

- (Oh dear! That's my friend! Quick B, be fast! If he/she saw me, he/she will go around asking me lots of question!)

- (Sorry lah B. I forgot to call you. Im tired. Furthermore, i just booked out. You don't even understand me uh!)

Whether you came first or being part of a love triangle is never easy. Only you know what's the best course of action for you. If you're caught yourself in love triangle, just end the relationship and refuse to be with the person again until they are truly free to be with you and only you.

Always remember, it takes TWO HANDS to clap. So, what's your say?

Low Self-Esteem.
Topic suggestion by Siti Zulaikha.

Feeling good about who you are (having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidece) is one of those things that will help make your life happier. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peers pressure.

Having low self-esteem? Don't worry because we're going to provide you with tips on how to build up your self-esteem and be more confidence with yourself.

Tips provided are from trusted sources.

1. Take a deep breath.

- Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.

2. Take inventory of your strengths.

- Everybody's good at something. Even if you don't have a talent or strength that you're aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths.

3. Realize your limits.

- NOBODY'S PERFECT. It may not always seem this way, but it's true. Everyone has their own personality, uniqueness, and a perspective on the world that's all your own and completely valueble.

4. Stop putting yourself down.

- One of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their goals is negative self-talk. It's the same as you're telling yourself that you're a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want.

5. Pat yourself on the back every day.

- Find a few small things that you did well each day. A lot of good can be accomplished in one day, and it's something to take pride in.

Try not to mix with friends who will bring negative impacts of you. Mix with those whom you know will bring you positive impacts. Friends falls on the 'negative impacts' category, and vice versa for Good friends. If he/she is a good friend, he/she won't criticize you unless those criticizing thingy will make you good.

Better still, just ignore the criticizer. Let them say whatever they wanna say about you. Let them be. They are just jealous about you. Don't entertain them because if you do, it's like you are giving them motivation to keep on bringing you down. Once they are tired or once they thought they looked like a complete fool in bringing you down when there's even no reply from you, they will stop doing so.

How to stop enemies who talks bad behind your back?
Topic suggestion by Lyna.

You had probably risk your life to protect them. So why is it so hard to get along with your siblings? While sibling rivalry might always be a mystery, how to improve your relationship with them doesn't have to be.

We're going to give you the chance to do so. Simply follow all the simple steps and you're on your way in being close with your siblings.

- 10 deep breaths are all you need to regain your temper and keep yourself from staying or doing something you will regret.

- They are only words after all. No matter how nasty your siblings is treating you, be the mature one. (Instead of fighting back with more insults, just walk away.)

- Most fights aren't worth fighting. If you think you're wasting your breathe in winning over the childish argument, just stop and save your breath for something more worth.

- Go to them only if it's a SERIOUS problem that you can't solve yourself. Don't approach them in the heat of the fight. Wait for a moment, and if you still want to involve your parents, sit down with them and make your point in a mature, even tone, as if you were an adult too.

- Living under the same roof as someone can be a big drain, even if you're not related to each other. If you and your sibling want to make it to your college years without going crazy, you will need to take a couple of hours a day to have sibling-free time. If you don't have your own room, then do some of your homework at the library, or find a spot to volunteer at, or go for a jog. And make a pact with your sibling to respect closed doors.

- There's no use aiming for a perfect relationship with your siblings because perfect relationships with siblings don't exist. Know that it's normal to feel jealous, annoyed or frustrated every once in a while. Cherish the happy times with them, even if they are rare occurrences. Those are the moments that will really stick with you when you're living on your own.

Just because you're the younger sibling, it doesn't mean you have to act that way. Always be mature, even if your older siblings aren't. Just because you're the older sibling, it doesn't mean you always know best. Give your younger siblings the same respect you want them to give you.

Good luck!

Nags, nags, and more nags! Parents doesn't fail to nag for almost everyday. One small mistake from you or if things doesn't go with their way, that's it. They're going to nag like that's the end of the world. And the reactions from you? Pissed, stressed, sad, irritated, and much more.

Does it feel like you and your parents just can't see eye to eye? Are you always fighting with them about your life? Is all the arguing and butting heads stressing you out? Well, we're going to provide ways to stop all those nagging and argument. Follow these steps to find some peace.

As a teenager, you are learning to become more independent, and this may be the reason why there is friction in your house. As you and your parents adjust to your new independent self, the fighting will decrease.

So, what's your say?