About 1% of married men who have affairs leave their wives, and many men cheat on their wives. With the Internet, there's even more chance to be elusive in the early stage.

Make no mistake, married men who are fooling around can be wonderfully attentive and romantic. He can be calling you all day long, filling your hungry heart with the wildest affirmations you've ever dreamed of, showering you with gifts, and making rapturous love to you when you get together.

Of course you're concerned and want to know if that guy you just met who's coming on to you so delightfully is married before you get involved.

From my very own personal experience, i've wasted 8 months of my life being in a relationship with someone who's already married. Well of course, he told me he was still single, and was looking for a serious relationship. First few months with him was like a 'honeymoon period' when everything was perfect. I met his clan of close friends, as well as his cousins. I even regard them like part of my family. That's how close i am with them.

One day, i had a major argument with my ex. He wanted a break up, i didn't agree with him and refused to let him go. Since he really wants to leave, he even said that he was married and told me to leave him. I thought that was just a threat or just another joke as he's the kind who likes to crack jokes, but in a very serious way. But i was wrong, it was a nightmare afterall. I met his wife, confronted his close friends, and he was indeed married for three years, and already has a kid.

Did i felt anything suspicious throughout the whole 8 months with him? Well, no. I given him all my trust, and i didn't expect to be cheated this bad. There's times when we're out, he will either switched off his phone or make it silent. And when he's answering calls or replying to his messages, he tend to go further away from me. But like what i've just said, i trusted him and maybe that's the reason why i didn't suspect anything at all.

So, how to be sure he is married and is just fooling around?

1) You only have his handphone number.

- Well yeah, he's married, not stupid. He knows you're enventually going to get a whiff of that wedding band, and when you do, he doesn't want you calling his house in the middle of the night. Girlfriend, if you don't have his house number, he's hiding something.

2) He's incredibly randy, all of the time.

- Married men looking to cheat are usually doing so because they never get the goods at home. This guy is obsessed with all things kinky, and wants you to do all manner of kinky things to him. He's ready to go the moment he sees you, and ready to go again immediately thereafter.

3) He pays for everything in cash.

- You can figure this out, right? Credit card statements are easily accessible to the wife. That's why he's gotta be smooth and pay in cash.

Obviously some of these can apply to single blokes. However, if you see all 3 with one guy, you'd better check that ring finger one more time, because the man probably has a wife! Don't get cheated like me, or you'll end up having a hard time picking pieces of your badly damaged heart.

"Tragedies happen. What are you going to do? Give up? Quit? No. I realized now that when your heart breaks you got to fight like hell to make sure you're still alive because you are. And that pain you feel? That's life. The cofusion and the fear? That's there to remind you that somewhere out there is something better and that something is worth fighting for."

Let's just say, I'm a girl and I've been seeing and texting this particular guy regularly. As time goes by, I started taken a liking to him and lucky for me, my feelings was reciprocated. I asked him about his status and he kept on emphasizing that he was single. Once I was convinced, I started loving him more each day. You know the saying - truth cannot be hidden forever? Yes, I finally know the truth in the end that he was attached all those while. How did I know? Well ...

1) A girl wouldn't write on his Facebook wall saying 'Baby I love you so much. A few more days to our monthsary' unless she's his girlfriend.

2) He switched off his handphone while I was going out with him.

3) If he did switch on his handphone and someone called him, he'd talk so softly on the phone or moved further away from me while I was with him.

4) He wouldn't hide his relationship status on Facebook if he was single.

5) He wouldn't have an album on his Facebook titled '♥' and all his pictures were taken with a girl, the same girl who wrote 'Baby..etcetc' on his wall.

6) I listened to my gut and intuition.

I was having doubts about his relationship status as time passes by so I tried to make sense of the six things (that I just typed above) and finally got the whole picture sorted out. I purposely said "I already know the truth so stop lying about your relationship status" to him and all he said was, "Actually I wanted to tell you from the start but I guess I'm too late." It took me 2 months to completely forget about him and seriously now I'm starting not to trust guys anymore. But hey, not all guys are the same and one advice from me to you readers out there is ... Be careful and try to find out his real relationship status first before falling deeply in love with him.

So, what's your say?

You're so noisy. You're so irritating. You're so tall. You're so fat. You're so short. You're so hot-tempered. And the list goes on... People keep on trying to put you down no matter what you do. Well, you know what to do. All you have to do is ignore because you are what you are and nobody can change you. Stop trying to be someone else because you're unique just the way you are.

Unless...you are turning other people off by your attitude. Then I suggest changing for the better may do you good too. Whatever you do, it's your choice anyway. 2011 is just a few days away so what's your new year's resolutions? To be honest, 2010's not a good year for me because a lot of unpleasant incidents occurred and I really pray and hope that 2011 will be better for me and of course, for all you readers out there.

Once again, don't try to change to someone you're completely not. Let's face it, you're you. :D

Im so going to get this out of my mind. I've been arguing with my guy friend (we're currently dating) over my another guy friend (someone whom im closed with, and only regards him as a bestfriend). This friend of mine, whom im currently dating with, keeps on assuming that i have something going on with my bestfriend.

Why so? Since I'm very close to him, we spend most of our time together. We went shopping together, we watched movie together, we cried to each other, we hugged each other, we kissed each other, we missed each other, and we loved each other. But like what I've just said, we're only bestfriends. Doesn't mean we're close, and always spending time with each other, he has to be my boyfriend.

Here goes the exact situation ...

I've known my bestfriend longer that i knew the guy whom im currently dating with. Few days back, i went out with my bestfriend and had a slight argument with him. Well, reason of argument shall remain private. He send me back home, and didn't say a word to me. He even ignore my messages and calls. Must be really disappointed in me, i guess.

Days have passed. Still no news from my bestfriend. Since we used to meet each other every single day, and it feels awkward having to stay at home and not to meet him, i cried because im starting to miss his accompany, and also him. So, i went online and my quick message at MSN was 'i miss you'. I didn't realized that the guy whom im currently dating with is also online. He chatted with me, asking things related to my quick message.

And the moment i told him i missed my bestfriend, he gets really pissed off and he even say things that somehow hurt me. Just because of my quick message and the reason i shared with him about why i argued with my bestfriend, he has to get jealous and gets really mad over it, and must mistook us for being a couple. He even accused me for being a liar, and i lied because according to him, im a girl with so many boyfriends.

Now tell me, how heartbreaking can that be? I can now relate myself for being in a dilemma. The guy whom im currently dating with wants me to choose. It's either him or my bestfriend. I extremely hate choosing and being put in such situations. It hurts, it really do. I don't wanna lose my bestfriend, as well as losing him.

Advice, opinions, and help needed on this. I've asked around and they say i should leave my bestfriend instead. I really need help. Thank you. :'(

I'm sure many of us have low self-esteem and lack of confidence in ourselves. When you received a criticism from someone, you'll tend to think that you're not good enough. When your self-esteem has been tampered with, you'll tend to fall harder. Another criticism from someone else just makes it worst for you and the next thing you'll want to do is just - break down and cry because you think that everyone else is better than you. Well, guess what, nobody's perfect at all. I'm sure you've heard of this, and yes, it's cliche but it's true!

I have this friend who is lacking of self-confidence. He is being criticized consistently by his friends because of his looks. Because of this, he is indulging in sadness most of the time and sadly but true, he cried every night because of his low self-esteem. I tried advising him several times to get back on his feet, but to no avail. He will tend to say negative things about himself and every time I tried stopping him from doing so, he just couldn't. Because his mindset is already - "I'm ugly, no one likes me." And tell you what, this is just going to hurt your self-esteem even more.

So, what are the steps to get back on your feet again and not feel as though you're worthless?

Step 1: Stop the negative self-talk. Self-talk is the ongoing conversation you have with yourself. Every time you hear yourself saying and affirming negative stuff about yourself TO yourself, STOP IT. Don't let one more negative thing about you get planted in your mind..
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Step 2: The best self esteem help is to say positive things to yourself every single day. Every day try to make it a point to say nothing but positive, self esteem building stuff to you. You will be amazed how much better you will feel about yourself and your life. Remember, you have to teach yourself how to gain self esteem first, then you can teach others. Self-praise can help sometimes too, though try not to self-praise too much because other people may not like it..

Step 3: Try to brush off what other people say about you. It may be hard but it's worth trying. Try to treat their criticism as something trivial. Have this planted on your mind - 'They can say whatever they want but they can never bring me down. They're just some heartless people who have no life, trying to bring other people down.'

These are the top 3 steps on how to regain your self-esteem. Don't be foolish as to think that you're worthless. YOU'RE NOT. Tell yourself that you're not what they say about you! Chin up, boys and girls, you're never alone. If you're willing to look on the positive side, then you'll be able to succeed in getting back what rightfully belongs to you - your self-esteem. If you still failed in regaining back your self-confidence, don't worry. Our tagboard is there and we'll be willing to help all of you :D

A new year, a new chapter of life. Let what had happened in 2010, stays in 2010. A new chapter of life, again another new resolution for the upcoming year. Each and everyone of us wants the best for ourselves. We're not bound to meet happiness every single day. There's ups and downs in life, and that makes our life even more spicier. What's life without obstacles in it?

Still thinking of your new year's resolution? Well, we've got something in stored for everybody. Maybe ideas will start popping out after getting yourself some interesting ideas.

1) Get healthy.

- Getting healthy doesn't just mean losing weight. It can also mean playing more sports, making healthier eating choices or just resolving to get off the couch a little more often. Make one small change at a time, and you'll have an easier time keeping this resolution.

2) GET HAPPIER.

- This is a little more of an abstract resolution that can mean different things to different people. Boost your self-esteem, or just spend more time doing things you love instead of things that make you feel bad about yourself.

3) Be a better person.

- Just throw some random acts of kindness into your daily routine. This feels so good that it can be addictive.

4) Find love.

- You can be perfectly happy by being single, but be honest. Wouldn't it feel great to find a boyfriend/girlfriend?

5) SHOW MORE LOVE TO YOUR FAMILY.

- Like it or not, your family is made up of the most important people in your life. Take a couple of deep breaths and resolve to be a little nicer to them.

6) Be a better friend.

- The more love you give to your friends, the more love they'll give back to you. There's nothing to lose.

7) Get better in school/work.

- You don't need to suddenly turn yourself into a straight A students, or to always be the best employee. But, im you bump up your performance by just a little bit, you'll be setting yourself up for a brighter future.

8) Learn something new.

- There's nothing more thrilling than the feeling of finally 'getting to try something new'.

9) Be a role model.

- Make smart decisions, and then make sure that other people are listening in on it. You can handle that, right?

10) Make some money.

- There's nothing wrong with wanting to pad your wallet a little bit. So, get a jon, or just find a better one.

Now, everybody wants the best for themselves. Who doesn't, right? In order for you to do so, you'll need to get your mind set, and not do something halfway and then give up on it. We really hope the facts that was given aboved somehow drew a clearer picture of what you guys wanna do later in 2011.

Let bygones be bygones, let what had happened in 2010 stays in 2010, and lets start afresh and hopefully, 2011 will be waaaaay better than this year.

I don't ride a bike because i don't own any license. Mum says it's way too dangerous for a girl to ride a bike. I agreed with her since there's a lot of death cases that involves bike. I'd rather be the pillion than riding my own bike. But, nobody says being a pillion is safer.

I enjoyed the company of my bestfriend and his friends whenever we're out for a ride. Most says being with Mat Motor and his friends is such a stupid thing for a girl to do. Why? Because most says they're only out for fun, or they simply wanna make use of that girl.

I doubt so. Lets be open here. My bestfriend and his friends isn't the kind who only rides bike. They're involved with groups, and whatever that falls on their list. But hey, they're not the kind who make used of girls or simply wants fun with them.

Being the ONLY girl, they requested me to organize something for them. For after so long mixing and going out with them, this is my first time being given such chances. Labrador Park was the destination. So, we headed there. We talked, laugh, bitched, joked, and enjoyed each other's company.

Honestly, i really don't understand why girls tend to say 'Guys (be it your friend, bestfriend, boyfriend or whoever) who rides bike only used girls as a toy'. It's kinda hard for me to agree with them because girls tend to go for guys with bikes, and from my opinion, they're letting themselves to be used as a toy.

I don't know. Maybe my bestfriend and his friends isn't like what girls always assumed? Or maybe they don't dare doing that thing to me because im close with my bestfriend and they respected me? Well, i really don't know.

No matter what reasons they have with themselves, not all Mat Motor and friends are the same. Try understanding them, they're the most fun group to hang out with! Yes, they do bitched about girls when they're on a conversation. Well girls, that's the best part of it.

Opinions needed on this topic. So, what's your say?

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We're back with a new concept too! After reviewing back to all of our post, we are aware most of it are related to Love. Well, that's not our main essential aim and focus of this blog. We update and share things about what is happening around us, and maybe some of you are not aware about it. Not only about Love, but something else as well. Touching too much about Love, readers will get bored. We hope you understand what we're trying to convey here.

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