About 1% of married men who have affairs leave their wives, and many men cheat on their wives. With the Internet, there's even more chance to be elusive in the early stage.

Make no mistake, married men who are fooling around can be wonderfully attentive and romantic. He can be calling you all day long, filling your hungry heart with the wildest affirmations you've ever dreamed of, showering you with gifts, and making rapturous love to you when you get together.

Of course you're concerned and want to know if that guy you just met who's coming on to you so delightfully is married before you get involved.

From my very own personal experience, i've wasted 8 months of my life being in a relationship with someone who's already married. Well of course, he told me he was still single, and was looking for a serious relationship. First few months with him was like a 'honeymoon period' when everything was perfect. I met his clan of close friends, as well as his cousins. I even regard them like part of my family. That's how close i am with them.

One day, i had a major argument with my ex. He wanted a break up, i didn't agree with him and refused to let him go. Since he really wants to leave, he even said that he was married and told me to leave him. I thought that was just a threat or just another joke as he's the kind who likes to crack jokes, but in a very serious way. But i was wrong, it was a nightmare afterall. I met his wife, confronted his close friends, and he was indeed married for three years, and already has a kid.

Did i felt anything suspicious throughout the whole 8 months with him? Well, no. I given him all my trust, and i didn't expect to be cheated this bad. There's times when we're out, he will either switched off his phone or make it silent. And when he's answering calls or replying to his messages, he tend to go further away from me. But like what i've just said, i trusted him and maybe that's the reason why i didn't suspect anything at all.

So, how to be sure he is married and is just fooling around?

1) You only have his handphone number.

- Well yeah, he's married, not stupid. He knows you're enventually going to get a whiff of that wedding band, and when you do, he doesn't want you calling his house in the middle of the night. Girlfriend, if you don't have his house number, he's hiding something.

2) He's incredibly randy, all of the time.

- Married men looking to cheat are usually doing so because they never get the goods at home. This guy is obsessed with all things kinky, and wants you to do all manner of kinky things to him. He's ready to go the moment he sees you, and ready to go again immediately thereafter.

3) He pays for everything in cash.

- You can figure this out, right? Credit card statements are easily accessible to the wife. That's why he's gotta be smooth and pay in cash.

Obviously some of these can apply to single blokes. However, if you see all 3 with one guy, you'd better check that ring finger one more time, because the man probably has a wife! Don't get cheated like me, or you'll end up having a hard time picking pieces of your badly damaged heart.